AND MY BIGGEST PIECE OF ADVICE
FOR COUPLES WEDDING PLANNING
When couples first reach out to me, they're usually just a few months post engagement, just starting to dip their toes into the wedding planning journey. It's one of the most exciting times in your life! You're starting a new chapter. You're celebrating one of the most important things that we can do as humans. You're celebrating a choice you've made to dedicate your life to someone, and they're dedicating their life to you too!
One of the first things that we talk about in our discovery calls are all about your dreams. What you want the day to feel like. What you might want it to look like. I love seeing my couples light up talking about how excited they are to spend time with their friends and family. It's a dream come true to be able to have everyone in one place, celebrating with you!
It's a day that you've dreamt you would spend crying happy tears and laughing till your sides ache. It's a day that you're told will be one of the happiest days of your entire life. It's the one day you want to go perfectly. You want it to be everything you've ever dreamed of.
But it seems like as soon after comes the onslaught of opinions and questions from basically everyone you've ever known.
"When's the wedding?"
"Have you picked a venue?"
"Did you pick a dress yet?"
"We have to invite [insert name of family member you've only spoken to once]"
"You HAVE to do this at your wedding"
Maybe it's from your parents, or your siblings, or your friends.
Then comes the slew of trends from what wedding colors you should choose, to whether or not you should have 20 disco balls, bridesmaids dresses you absolutely just have to have, the super expensive veil that you should just splurge on because it's going to make the biggest statement ever. And don't forget that you should absolutely have strong opinions about all of these! Because if you don't cry your eyes out the second you try on a wedding dress, then it's definitely not "the one".
It's a lot. Soon enough, by the time wedding day rolls around, you've completely forgotten what it was that you wanted when you first set out on this adventure.
"I wish we just did what we initially wanted and didn't get sucked into all of the bullshit."
It's the number one regret. And it breaks my heart every time. It's so easy to get lost in the sauce when wedding planning. With everyone telling you what you should do or what or feel, you forget what it was that you wanted in the first place.
So my biggest piece of advice if you're planning your wedding: Stay true to you.
Before you start shopping for venues and vendors, before you start making your Pinterest board, stop and sit down with your partner and write these things down. Like physically write them on a piece of paper and look back at it often while you're planning.
How do you want to remember your wedding day?
What things are most important to you about your wedding day?
What is it you've dreamt this day would be?
Feel now what it is you really want your day to be. Because you only do this once. So if you really want to say your I do's with just your closest loved ones in the quiet of a mossy forest, do it. If you want everyone you know and love to be with you on the dance floor until 2:00am, do it. If you want to wear crocs under your wedding dress and eat pizza for breakfast, do it. Because whether you want 20 people at your wedding, or 200 people at your wedding, what you're going to remember more than anything is how you felt that day.
So take it from me, you won't regret eloping at your favorite diner with your dog and signing your marriage license over a slice of pizza. Do what you love with your love.
(Super 8mm footage from when my husband Brian and I when we eloped in November 2022. Can't wait to share our intimate Mount Baker wedding celebration coming in August 2023!) →